Filmmaker and YouTuber Casey Neistat said it once in one of his videos and he may have been quoting someone else, but at this point, I can’t really be sure because I’ve been too busy myself to remember that small part of this trivia. The important thing to remember is the quote itself, “Be too busy to be worried about what anyone else is doing.” It’s really good advice and before you critique me on being lazy, I googled it and looked at the top results and nothing came up, therefore thank you Casey for the wise words.
There is a lot of validity to this statement. When you are focused on your goals and the things that should matter most to you, then the whats and whys and the whos, whens, and wheres of what others are up to really don’t matter. To an extent, but we’ll get to that later. Too many times we log onto our social media accounts or listen to our friends talk about their lives and what we see are these picture perfect situations, which invoke a jealousy and depression in ourselves because we aren’t doing or experiencing those things. We concern ourselves with others lives so much we forget to be concerned about our own. The ironic thing about that is that if we just shift that situation the other way then it is the other people who become jealous of you and that amazing things you do. Who knows though, they may already be thinking that. Truth is, most of what people show on social media is a facade of their lives that they want you to see to make you think they have it all. Regardless of the truth behind the vacation pics or seemingly endless brunches, you need to stop worrying about them and focus on you.
It’s not just the positive side of others lives we get hung up on either. Some of us, the more empathic ones, tend to get wrapped up in the hardships of others and begin to feel their pain very deeply and it affects our lives to a great extent. Now, we do need to be more empathic and care about others and be there for our fellow humans (and animals) but there is a limit to when that becomes unhealthy for you and turns into a toxic situation. It’s a fine line and you have to find that for yourself. If you are laser focused on your goals, health, successes, and relationships then it will become easier to be there for others in a healthy and positive way.
There is a lot to unpack with this quote. Aside from personal feelings and possible toxic relationships, there is the part of it that is focused on your career success and more out of body goals. As much as we’d like to think we are so unique in that we are artists, writers, photographers, or the next person with the most genius idea on the planet, the truth is there are thousands of others just like us doing the same thing. This fact is where we can get bogged down in worrying about what they are doing in our same field of focus and let our own fall to the side. I see other creatives and filmmakers in my city producing great content for either clients or as unique passion projects that are similar to my own and find myself thinking, “Shit, they are way better than I am. I should just give up,” or “they beat me to it and now no one will want to watch or read what I’m doing.” That is a terrible mindset to get into. What to do when that hits? Get so busy on my own grind that their grind isn’t really an issue. There is room for all of us and if there isn’t, me giving up or not pushing myself only gives them a leg up. Because while we rest or stop focusing on our goals and focus on someone else’s, they are grinding and passing us by.
The next time you find yourself too concerned about what someone else is doing, remember this quote, “Be too busy to be worried about what anyone else is doing.” After you recite that in your head a few times, get to work and make your dreams a reality. It may be a bit counterintuitive, but work so hard for what you want that other people have to remind themselves to not be worried about what you are doing and get busy themselves.