Unless you somehow can support yourself completely without having to sell anything, do any type of service, or take care of anyone, someone else relies on you. This may be in a major or a minor way, but at the end of the line there is someone needing you to do something in order for them to continue doing what they do. Maybe you make a product and someone is purchasing that product. You have to make the product and provide some way for that individual to get that product. If you fall behind then they don’t get what they want or need and that is all on you. There are many ways we can lose sight of this, but we need to try harder at staying on our toes and being conscious of how our actions or lack of actions relate to others.
In my career as a filmmaker I run into this issue a lot. Whether it is myself not getting an edit done in time or a client not getting me notes on a project in order to complete it. In this pipeline there is a monetary reliance involved. If I don’t produce the product on time then they can’t use it to market their goods or service and they lose money. If they don’t give me notes in a timely manner then I can’t finish the product at all and therefore I don’t get paid. This often leads to a lot of frustration, either passively or actively.
These passive and active reactions lead to resentment and a rift in the relationship. When we show someone that we aren’t reliable then they can’t trust us to do something they need us to do in the future. We need to get better at staying diligent with our responsibilities and one way to do that is to keep a list that we see and read every day and throughout the day. This will keep those responsibilities on the forefront of our minds and more likely to accomplish them sooner. If it is an ongoing responsibility then keeping this list can help to form a habit and break the old one of forgetting or letting others down.
You know that saying, “why put off for tomorrow what can be done today?” Well, why put off responding to that text if you can respond now? Why not send that email when you can send it now? Why not edit that clip or ship that product or clean that soccer uniform? Yes, we all have a million things going on and a lot to do, but if we just pause and focus on what needs to be done and think about who is waiting on that and how long they have been then we will start to find that getting things done is rather easy and the relationships we have with others begins to strengthen. Next thing you know you’re so incredibly successful, you have a team of people working for you who can accomplish a lot of those things for you. Wouldn’t that be nice?